In the wake of the new year, I saw a lot of people saying the equivalent of “2013 sucked a lot.”
While the whimsy of fate can really be a downer, I’d like to point out that we have a pretty incredible amount of control over our own lives, so most of the time we’re reaping what we sow. Sure, there’s always inclement weather, random catastrophes, bad hair days, human errors, etc., but even some of that can come down to personal choice – if you live where the weather is what makes your life suck, maybe you should move. If you consistently have bad hair days which are ruining your life, maybe change hair styles?
“But Ben,” you say, “didn’t one of your friend’s kids get cancer in 2013? How is that under his control?” Well it probably wasn’t, which is why I included statements like “most of the time,” and “some of that.” Shit happens, no argument there, but it COULD be argued that avoiding extra shit / dealing with the shit you’re dealt is what life’s about. The kid’s doing pretty good from what I hear, by the way.
I’ve heard it said that you don’t HAVE to do anything in your lifetime except die and pay taxes. To put things into perspective, I’d like to point out that you don’t actually HAVE to pay taxes – there are simply repercussions if you don’t. I heard that one of my favorite local musicians actually evaded taxes for a while by moving to Europe. A lot of the roots we lay down are of our own making, and people pick up and move to other cities / states / countries / continents every day.
Anyhow, people make resolutions to do this or that, which is great, and we all joke about how giving up on those resolutions halfway through January, but we forget the fact that we made the resolution, and in some cases that’s a pretty big thing. It’s a conscious, pro-active effort to make the year “not suck,” and yeah, some folks give up too easily, which is unfortunate. By the way, no, I’m not saying “it’s the thought that counts.” If you made the resolution and didn’t stick with it, at least recognize that you
made it. Ask yourself why you made it? Why didn’t you stick with it? Grill yourself – the only person holding you accountable is yourself.
So here we are, a full 9 days into the new year. Are you gonna get started on that epic art project you’ve always wanted to dive into? Find a new job? Move to a new place? What is your MERCILESS and PRO-ACTIVE plan to make 2014 your bitch?